Tom-E - Darkness to Light Lyrics

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There are some millionaires With money, they can't use Their wives run round like banshees Their children sing the blues They've got expensive doctors To cure their hearts of stone. Thanks for sharing your sister's story and yours. My mother had 8 children and I was the youngest girl. I want to thank you for making this as I am already feeling a little better after reading it.

And some of it turned out to be part of who I am as a person. Whether he's surrounded by a large crowd or there's no one in sight, the guy in this 1982 song finds himself dancing alone. Some songs can actually celebrate being alone, and what better way to celebrate loneliness than with some good, old-fashioned masturbation?

Tom-E - Darkness to Light Lyrics

Sometimes it felt good, but it never felt right. It made me smile because I love when life delivers seemingly coincidental, positive messages like that, right when we need them most. Which got me thinking… Why do people have to feel this way? Millions of people in this world, all of them craving connection, and looking for specific experiences and people to satisfy them, yet inadvertently isolating themselves in the process. Was the planet put here just to nourish our loneliness? It gives us an opportunity to discover who we really are and what life is all about. Here are some things to keep in mind when you feel lost and alone: 1. You are not alone in being alone. So many of us are fighting the same exact battle alongside you. We are all in this together. So no matter how embarrassed or pathetic you feel about your own situation, know that there are others out there experiencing the same emotions. Sometimes you need to be alone, not to be lonely, but to enjoy a little free time just being yourself and finding your way. In other words, the moments you feel lonely are the moments you may most need to be by yourself. And the truth is, throughout your life there will be times when the world gets real quiet and the only thing left is the beat of your own heart. Not until you are lost in this world can you begin to find your best path. Realizing you are lost is the first step to living the life you want. Making a big life change is pretty scary. But each time what I found was more incredible than the last. So remember that everyone suffers in life at some point. Everyone feels lost sometimes. The key is using your experiences to grow. You become stronger and wiser. You cannot find peace by avoiding life. Life spins with unexpected changes; so instead of avoiding it, take every change and experience as a challenge for growth. Either it will give you what you want or it will teach you what the next step is. And remember, finding peace in life does not mean to be in a place where there is no noise, no challenges, and no hard work. It means to be in the midst of those things while. Honestly, life is too short to spend at war with yourself. The biggest disappointments in our lives are often the result of misplaced expectations. Letting go of needless expectations is your first step to happiness. Come from a mindset of peace and acceptance, and you can deal with almost anything and grow beyond it. In every situation, YOU choose your attitude. Be determined to be positive. Understand that the greater part of your misery or unhappiness is determined not by your circumstances, but by your attitude. Being alone does not mean you are lonely, and being lonely does not mean you are alone. One can be lonely in the midst of a crowd. So keep this in mind and choose your relationships wisely. Everyone you care about does NOT need to support your decisions. Only time will tell, but our human instincts are rarely wrong. Over the years, so many things have happened — things that have changed your perspective, taught you lessons, and forced your spirit to grow. As time passes, nobody stays the same, but some people will still tell you that you have changed. The best you can do changes from day to day. Always do your best. For instance, it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best in the present moment and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse, and regret. And do the best you can in it. It all matters in the end — every step, every regret, every smile, and every struggle. The seemingly useless happenings add up to something. The minimum wage job you had in high school. The evenings you spent socializing with colleagues you never see anymore. The hours you spent writing thoughts on a personal blog that no one reads. Contemplations about elaborate future plans that never came to be. All of this has strengthened you. All of this has made you who you are today. The floor is yours… What helps you stay positive when you feel lost and alone? Leave a comment below and share your thoughts. I thought I was tougher than I really am.. But then I fell apart. Ugh I hate that feeling. I wish there was a way to connect with other posters here. I googled feeling lost and this was the first site that came up. Thank you for the article. Change, especially at our age, can be pretty scary. First of all, try a yoga class or meditative and stretch yoga online to centre yourself every day. This is good for your health and self-esteem. Lastly, forgive yourself and have courage and patience. I have been an officers wife in the military and lived in other countries. I have lived on my own in other states. My children are grown and i am alone and single now. This has been the most soul searching time and period of lonely times I have ever known in the past two years. I find my strength in the the times I connect with the inner part of myself trying to gift myself solace. We are actually never alone but none the less it can still be very emotional and heart wrenching. Just know that when those times hit you think of someone like me who is just as human as you that goes through the same feelings. Not sure what though. I feel extreme emotional pain, loneliness, heartache. I believe I have failed. When I was young I was the cool pretty girl that all the boys wanted to call their girlfriend. I lost my mind at age 19. State hospitals and 20 years later my mind came back to me. Now I am a single mom of 3 young boys. My husband betrayed me and left a blessing though really that he left, he was very abusive. My friends all left. I was part of a church, they asked me to leave?! I go weeks without talking to another person. It breaks my heart they deserve so much more. I stay at home and tear myself to pieces trying to understand why? What did I do? All I can gather is people, even the people who are supposed to love you the most are more inclined to judge you and abandon you rather than stick thru the hard times with you. I have a necklace from a friend who left. She gave it to me because she said I was the kindest person she had ever met. A lot of people used to say the same thing to me. Why did everyone abandon me? And where do I go from here? If anyone out there could pray I find my way maybe our God will hear you. My heart goes out to all feeling loneliness. I feel very sorry about you story. But come to think of this, Your friends, husband, and even your Sister may have left you. You just have to stand up for you and for your kids, there are people who will stay and and who will not in our lives. But I can assure you that your kids will stay for not permanently but Forever and love you unconditionally. I will include you to my prayers tonight before I go to bed. I will ask God to give you more strenght and give you happiness that everyone deserves in this world. I know you are a good mother to your kids. So keep your head up high and be happy. They care for you , they need you and to be needed is a very special and precious thing. It puts things into focus and perspective. Little ones change our focus. I have made many friends over the years but have never been able to make any of them work long term. This starts all the way back in my early school years right on up to University, work, my adult life and a failed marriage. I have made many mistakes and done things that I am not proud of but I have never been an unkind or mean person. I have never looked down upon, nor felt superior to, anyone. But, still, I have suffered tremendously, in regards to relationships, almost my entire life. In a room full of people, I could feel alone. I knew something was wrong but I did not know what. I see now that what was wrong was that I was wearing the armor of a false attitude and it was lacking. It was armor I had put on as a small child. When I was very young, 7 years old, my father died. Up until the time he got ill we were very involved in the Church and I had strong faith. I believed and trusted in the Lord. When my father got ill, I prayed and I prayed that God not take him. God had other plans and he died just after Christmas 1975. I remember sitting in the Church at his funeral and I can still taste and feel the hot tears that were running down my face. We were through and I walked away. It was an attitude that would leave me naked and defenseless for a long, long time. And without having true love for myself how could I ever show true love for anyone else? When you have that, I believe, good people are drawn towards you and stay in your orbit, like gravity. My biggest blessing is knowing that He loves me and He loves you and, no matter what anyone else says or does or what we may have done in the past, His love, through redemption, is forever. You just have to open your heart and give yourself to Him fully and completely, knowing that He has a plan for you. Once you do that, you have gained the most dependable ally you could ever hope for. He will never abandon you and will always be there through the hard times. None of us are failures until we give up trying. Reaching out is the first step and you have taken that. I had been away from His word for a long time and I felt like a bit a lot of an outsider myself so I struggled to find the right Church for quite a while. Looking at my 9 yr old son also reminds me of how truly blessed I am. Your 3 boys are very lucky to have such a devoted and determined mother and I know they are behind you. We all make mistakes but none of us are mistakes. His world is at your fingertips, right now. We will all pray for you and we love you. Thank you Marty for writing this! I lost my Dad at the age of 6 and just realized that I have done the exact same as you. I lost my faith and chose to believe that everyone that I ever loved would leave and guess what…. Makes me laugh a little and shake my head. So after 44 years I finally had the realization that as a child I set my course and the adult is just now catching on. So brave of you to share you feelings too, so many people keep their emotions locked inside. What an amazing thing to be told your the kindest person they ever met. Of all the peole they ever met you are the kindest. If you want to have someone to chat with you are more than welcome to skype or email me anytime. We can exchange details. Everyone needs a friend and to be loved. Sending love and warmth to you lisa. Xx I lost my mind at 21, two hospital stays later and a hell of a lot of Lithium , depakote, lamictal, klonopin, not all at the same time. It seems like people have left you, but really they are getting on with their lives and you need to too. Surround yourself with those that feel deep as well and they will understand and respect you and your life. I have a family that is self absorbed so if I want their attention I have to scream. Sometimes they are all I have so I have to wave, jump up and down to get attention. Right now my boyfriend has moved to Florida, he was all I had. I cried and still cry for him, but it is where he can make money… So after many panic attacks and suicidal thoughts i realized the only way to preserve my life is to get people in it connect with anyone. At first it was crisis clinic twice a week, then i said ok I have all this time on my hands I will do some volunteering and horses came to mind. So i help a woman out with her 3 horses, one in particularly I am trying to gain her trust and her mine. Tonight I feel lonely, my boyfriend is fast asleep, but tomorrow I get to see Marley.. In the meanwhile, I see my parents on the weekend and cherish the time I have with Marley and the friendship i am making with Sue the owner of the horses. Letting them into my life is hard for me. Anyone who has been abused in some way will shut the door very easily to others, that is the safe path, but not the full-filling one. Be curious to find those who will love you……So thank-you, big thanks, for sharing your loneliness for right now I am not lonely. C I read your story and I think I can relate but I think it is my parents that are sabotaging me. I too feel extremly alone. I have not had kids eventhough I wish I had them and I do not have a wife. The relations I built in secret from my parents flourished until they found out. However, my family looks at me strangely as if my condition was shared with them and I am often alone. I will look for a way out of this of course but it is extremely hard to go from a beautiful life to one of horrible loneliness. I wish this ends but I do wish not to know my parents who I do believe have been sabotaging me. I wish you all the luck in the world in finding more happiness and people to be with. Michele, This is the first time I have written a comment in this way, but I felt drawn to. There are some wonderful words of encouragement posted here. What I am struggling with is recognizing that love must come from within first. It hurts when people leave, and sometimes is very hard to accept. Keep your head up, and know that you do have the strength to get thru. I am sending you good wishes and thoughts. Thank you for sharing your story. But I just want to let you know that your comment touched me deeply. I feel lonely too. You have gone through hard things and yet come out not giving up. Sometimes people reflect back at us how we project how we feel about ourselves. My self esteem right now is so much lower than it ever was. But anyway I just wanted to let you know that I care. Michele……I hope you are doing ok….. I respect you for being forthright in reaching out to the goodness of others…. Do not let the lack of anyone around you in terms of friends or family deter you…. Be strong……Feelings are temporary….. Take one day at at time…one minute……even one second…. Realize what is important to you those boys and go from that point……Find what makes them happy and experience it as your own…. You only have 1 life……But, now you have 4…. You are not a failure: You are a MOTHER…. You — just because of your temporary feelings or situation — are not a failure….. This is true ….. I am going some sadness now after a relationship that has not turned out the way I thought………So, I, too, must keep stepping forward……Keep my head up…. I need to realize that my feelings are temporary and be strong…not weak…. You can find happiness in the simplest of things…. But, also, find yourself — what is past, is past……You are loved and are love……Take care of those kids like you would have wanted to be treated…….. Do whatever it takes to smile once in awhile….. Remember always the world can be lonely……I am not alone……I love……. Thank you for making me realize……I must do that as well….. Michele, I hope you are doing well today. I can relate to some of your past. They were the only reason I could find to live. I too go a long time without talking to another human. The depression here alone is unbearable. I hope you and your boys are healthy and happy, and I hope I can feel that way soon. Just an objective thoughtful counselor, doctor or pastor who can understand where you are right now and direct you to some resources in your new area like volunteer work, new hobbies and certainly a place with people available. I hope you are a person of faith and could use your faith to give you initial strength to understand what you are going through and determine a path forward. Perhaps in the time since you wrote your letter above you have made some friends and associates, maybe a neighbor has begun talking over the fence with you, etc. Be well, and follow YOUR path through life. The kindest of people get walked on the most. I call them land angels — too pure for this world. The world consists of 2 types of people. People who morph, mould and do what it takes to fit in. And sadly those are the ones who get left behind, used, abused or chewed up and spat out. People are stuck in their bubble of denial. I hope things have changed for you and life is a little more wonderful for you! Take no more crap and believe in your judgement. It was the greatest freedom when I was finally admitted the truth of the lies I knew were being fed to me. I thanked them graciously for giving me back my inner voice that I now fully trust again! I hope it has given you and everyone else the same freedom! We are the lucky ones who have been given the gift of seeing the world unfiltered. Lonely yet powerful and self-suiting. Dear Michelle, I think you are a beautiful human that as the rest of human beings, want to be happy and do not like to suffer. Normally, in that not wanting to suffer people tend to avoid situations where they do not feel secure or do not know how to handle. That is part of human nature trying to look for happiness. The good news is that there are bunchs of people that study how to help other people, that are in situations where the way out does not seem easy to find. You could find them as psychoanalysts, as priests, as lamas the buddhist monks that are prepared to teach buddhism , as rabinos, etc. Look for someone that could help you, depending on what makes you feel good, and what is according to your beliefs. Sometimes, just a simple talk with a lama, in my case, help me to stay on track or going back to the track if I lost it. The religion organizations, when they are authentic trying to help you, will not force you to contribute or charge you for any of the help they provide. Also, you could look for a group that shares similar interests and can help depending on your needs and aspirations. He knows how you feel and we know he came through to the other side : and so will you. But then there was the glory of the Sunday. I want you to think for a minute about all the good things you manage to achieve every day. You take care of your children and they love you. You make sure they have what they need for their day and their development. That is no mean feat! You have been through the wringer and back yes you bounced back!!! That was no mean feat either. You are truly an amazing person. I will definitely add you to my prayers. That nothing happens by accident and that everything you do, every day is meaningful whether you can see it right away or not. You are an amazing person so take heart. So I just find excuses and i tell one lie after the other to hide from him the real situation and to pretend that i have lots of friends. What is hurting me the most though is the feeling that i have now,like i want to escape to leave and never come back…the feeling of anger towards the world,happy people,people who live their lives.. Hello Lisa, I am sorry sorry to hear that you feel so sad, and angry at the world. What if you told him the truth? Maybe you would feel better? From my personal experience, lying hurts. Lisa, it sounds like you are going through something very difficult, and it might help to talk to someone. I feel like that sometimes too, and it helped me. Perhaps, try asking yourself, what are your running away from? I think that it would be helpful if you spoke to someone you could trust about how you feel. But when I feel like that, what helps me is writing in my journal, exercising, and singing. When I do these things, I release some of that tension that is building inside of me. I know, that it feels unbearable, and that you are in pain, but remember that this is phase, and it too will soon pass, and you will feel better. Life is full of phases, sometimes I have a lot of people around me, and at other times, I spend most days by myself. As other people have mentioned, you can be in a crowd of people and feel alone. Perhaps you should ask yourself, how can I feel less lonely? If you would like to meet new people there are many meet up groups available, or perhaps reaching out to an old friend. To conclude, I wish you the absolute best. Things will get better. Hi Michelle, I read your comment and cried because it was like you were writing my story. I like you was in an abusive relationship and was very happy he was gone. I thought people would be more supportive, but I came to realize that I was putting up with more abuse and judgement from so called friends. But I ended up having a nervous breakdown,taking myself to the hospital because I literally felt like I was so sick, I was dying. I had 2 young ones at the time. I feel for you because I have been there and wish I could give you a hug. That was all I ever wanted and nobody would give me one. I have managed to make a couple of good friends along the way which has helped, but I know this will be my struggle to overcome. I too,spent years not speaking to anyone. I realize now that is because of the abuse I went through and not being able to talk about it. It is tough, and I am so sorry that you are going through this. It does get better with time and the thing that kept me going was the fact that my kuds adored me and that was the best feeling. I do not believe in God, so I cannot pray, but I do believe in humanity, and I am sending good vibes your way for someone to come into your life and just hug you, and tell you everything is going to work out. Sending good thoughts your way Yvette When I feel lost and alone, I use that emotion to drive myself to do productive things. It used to be intense fear and sorrow—this comes from my trauma from the past—that at times made me actively suicidal. I have learned to think about my thoughts and choose not to believe every one of them negative ones. But, for whatever reason it was not resonating with me fully… clearly. I had lost my husband of 16 years to cancer over 6 yrs. I knew there was, but invisible to all but me. That 1st year I describe as if I walking through quicksand…Things felt slow, like the menial tasks of every day life took so much effort…strength. Maybe this is the time to do the things that really matters to YOU. Sometimes in life we unconsciously interpret making the people around us happy makes us happy. We do it without anything in return nor you ask for it. But life can really be a bitch because the time will come like right now} when you are asking for paybacks from the same group of people you made once happy. I know I did. Believe me, I know how you feel. We have to start from within ourselves first. Let go of the past. There is no payback for the things we did to them before…. Because that means I already moved on and Im not holding back anymore. I will pray for you. But u know this kind of person are really hard to find.. And u have 3 children from God who are there in ur loniness so Just hold on for good things coming to ur life in future…Time change.. But remember your not alone, xx I feel the pain of all the other lonely people in the world. I cry for them because I know the numb agony of being alone. The lack of comfort in another human is unnatural and sends subconscious signals that something is wrong. This makes us stressed and anxious. The conscious mind is the real killer. It takes that panic and runs. The something wrong becomes the self. I am alone as a result of an action i perpetrated. I am in it. Yet I cry gutteral tears of dispair at my loneliness. I am left never being able to let anyone close yet yearning for closeness with all my heart. Dear Michele I read your whole story so sadly, as if it was happening to me. I was in this blog to find answer for my current situation, but I learned that there are people who needs more help than myself. Giving suggestions as an outsider might be easy. Satan wants us to do the opposite. To look at our problems and blame God. Many successful people said it, even though they gave it other names. Law of attraction, positive thoughts attract positive, negatives negatives bla bla…but I say to you, our Lord said it. Pray and it consider it done. Close that file and give more time to thank for what you have. Many suffers for not having a child, and many for not having health. You have the biggest things. Do not doubt that God will give the rest little things. Here you are not asking a friend. You are asking the one who gave you life, and who gave three lifes through you. Hence I push you to thank God through Jesus Christ, for giving you many big things, and thank that your prayers are done. Looking at the best you have means looking at God. This makes your relationship with him stronger and stronger, at the same time it makes the devil thought weaker and weaker to death. Keep adoring your blessings from God! Never pay attention on the other side. Thank you for your supportive words, may God bless you for helping me in a moment of doubt, fear of the future and loneliness. I prayed for each person writing about their suffering here. Give a chance to gently allow yourself to expect small miracles and those encounters might happen. Because there are many many wonderful people too. Just try doing something new, use your God given freedom. Soamy in this world are deprived of that. We all might have limitations from monetary constraints, or distance, but even a page like this, not getting out the door even, can bring helpful ideas to improve. But most of all, to make us do the hardest thing which is reaching out. Reaching out is hard because we feel shame in sharing our defeats but why not start by being human and humble and connecting with people through universal shared mundane experiences until we feel confident to get closer and open up ourselves? Wish you all good luck and that you find inspiration in a good and safe way that leads to a fulfilling path. I am 20 years old. I thought I knew what my dream was already since the age of 15 and I slowly went towards realizing it. This year I finally had the chance to participate in a program where I wanted to go most in this world — Japan, but somehow, after I returned, everything turned into a nightmare. I returned from this two week program and somehow became utterly depressed. I have always been so eager to accept different opportunities, be busy, make the most out of life. It has always been my dream. I keep questioning myself — am I running away from life? Am I trying to avoid it? Have I suddenly stopped wanting what I have always wanted? Maybe after actually going to the place I wanted to connect my future with, I realized that it is not my calling? Or am I simply going through a phase? Another thing, I am scared to tell my feelings to my loved ones, my family, friends. I am afraid of being judged. There are always these expectations — finish school, go straight to university, get a good job, follow the path you have always followed. Why do I suddenly want to do something completely different than before? I thought I knew myself, my calling in life. I am truly grateful for the kind, thoughtful words that I have read here today. I hope and pray for comfort and love to reach everyone who has written and who is hurting. I would like to write this for Janet … I really feel for you, too. I had an experience similar to yours, and it was really difficult to get to the other side of it. I think if you read about it, you will recognize the symptoms and understand why you feel this way. I hope you will get some medical help, so you have at least one person to talk to. Try not to worry about how you feel about your goals right now. It may be for something else but I think you will be able to look at this time and think it was an adventure and something good will come out of it. I think we all know this from experience. I hope you feel really better soon. Thank you all for your messages, here. I have been through a tough few years but refuse to let loneliness set in, prior to 2011 I was in a Happy place, many great friends, in a relationship with a fabulous guy for 12 years after divorcing in 2001. Life was good, 2011 I was diagnosed with a tumor in my Jaw, had surgery and now had the all clear, the surgery has left me with a speech defect and slight dissfiguration of my chin due to extensive radiation. BUT I kept smiling, my friends and family were fantastic support. Unfortunately my 13 year relationship ended last year which devastated me, but I pulled through. My circle of friends have diminished due to change of circumstances of their current lives changing and moving on. My way of coping and staying positive is to keep your self healthy, I eat well, exercise regularly,, keep up my appearance, laugh, stay away from negative people and cry when I need too. I have been through dark days but the ones ahead look so much brighter. We all grow stronger from all these obstacles that are thrown at us. Stand up, brush off the dirt and move forward. At the age of 5 , I hardly knew how to make fun of others. At the age of 6 , I came to know that there is some problem to me. I am not the normal guy who can freely express there feeling. I am an ugly guy who had no friends. Slowly and slowly my neighbours including my uncle had started to make fun of me. Later, my mother used to tell me to ignore such things. Today , when I have to go to office then again I feel scare. Again I think how I can prepare myself to face this beautiful world. Ya I know it is not there fault to laugh at the person like me. But still I am trying to make myself so strong and bold that one day I would definitely win the heart of everyone or if not then these small things would not be important for me anymore…. May God bless us.. Ugliness does not exist. We are all special Rahul. I have my own bad story partly that I was amongst the best liked people growing up but now I feel so alone and do not have close friends and more that I wrote in my original message that I hope gets published. Rahul never give up. Michele is so beautiful too and her story touched me. I instantly did not feel alone also as if I was touched by God. I have prayed as well. I will also pray against loneliness so that we no longer feel this way hopefully. Thank you for writing this article to the author. I feel stronger than ever before and feel connected to all of you,because we are all very strong,capable people who have faced,and fought against the worst of odds and yet we continue to survive. We continue to LIVE and breathe and continue with life despite of all the hardships that it makes us face every single day. Yes,I have had failed relationships. I have been commitment phobic. I used to love my best friend and could never express myself to him,in fear of losing our friendship. But now,its all gone.. Its me who always has to make the effort. For days on end I have no one to talk to. All the people I supported,stood up for.. I am young,I am trying to leave for higher studies,study even more keep myself absorbed but all that will take some time. I miss them all. I had an amazing life. I was always positive. I still am but not as much as I used to be. I continue to pretend being strong and happy in my own space but deep down I am horribly depressed. But at the same time,I know this is a fleeting phase. I will have a wonderful life ahead and not just me WE ALL WILL. WE ARE ALL WONDERFUL PEOPLE WHO DESERVE TO BE HAPPY. I have felt alone most of my life. My parents moved around quite a bit when I was a child and I thought that I was always good at making friends and not being alone. Unfortunately I always had to leave those friends behind. I have worked around the same people and get along with all of them but I feel that I am always forgotten. Most people make friends and then are involved in those friends lives. I am the person everyone forgets. My phone never rings. Social media is evil when you feel like this because you see people you know all having a fun and happy life and you are stuck at home, alone, doing laundry and cleaning because that is all your life consists of. No more reminders that I am a loner. I am married and have three children but I just want a friend to call me and ask how I am or ask if I want to do something with them. He wants to have a life and not made to feel guilty for it. To make matters worst my husband lost his job and we are struggling financially. I would not want them to be ashamed of me for feeling the way I do. Cindy, I am so sorry you feel like that. I want to give you a hug to help you feel better. I think you did a great thing in seeking professional help. Just hang in there. Life is hard but it is also a beautiful thing. I was a cutter and anorexic as a teenager. I survived both but still struggle with feeling alone. I just want you to know that you are okay. You have a place in this world and even thugh y I never leave comments anywhere but this article really came at a good time. Just entered college and feel more disconnected and alone than ever. Anyway, thanks for the article! Jasmine It was 40 years ago at this time when I entered college as a freshman in the first semester. I felt exactly the way you described. Before entering, I was very excited about going. I thought that I would meet some really cool people. I thought that they would be much better than where I came from. The college I went to was 120 miles from where I lived. It was a very mind-blowing experience. It seemed like I had social situations that were over my head; conflicts that I never had to deal with before. And I thought that I had been through everything! I spent a lot of time just being in my room. It was so bad that I had a reputation on campus for being very shy and reclusive. I really stood out! When the winter break came, I wanted to quit. It was such a nice feeling to be home right after the last final exam for that semester. But when it came time to go back, for some strange reason, I looked forward to going back. When I went back for the 2nd semester, it was much better. There was still a lot of learning on a social level and stuff. After that the college got better and better for me.. Maybe it will get better in the next semester, or maybe not. I was feeling very lost and alone today. It seems to be a feeling that comes often these days. I want to thank you for making this as I am already feeling a little better after reading it. I needed to hear these postiive words. I am a male, 58, never married, and no kids. There are lots of times when I feel alone, scared, and lonely. I had a brother, who was two years older than me, pass away only a couple days ago. He and I were not close. One might say that my family is dysfunctional. I live by myself. My sister, brother, and I are 3,000 miles from each other. My sister and my brother are 1,500 miles from each other. I just do not want to do it, though there are times when I toy with that idea. The only reason I would think about going back is if I end up with a health issue. I dread the idea that I could be very ill and die alone. My sister has two teen-aged kids at her home. She has a husband who is a jerk. With the kids, there seems to be so much drama. Her kids are like Gods to her and everything revolves around them. She has spoiled them tremendously. But knowing her, she would be very domineering with me. I live at a condo complex now and my neighbors are not friendly. Some people have objected to that idea for me. But I think that it can only be better for me being in a place like that then where I live now. Thank you for creating this blog. I am in a similar state as the author and most of those who commented. I grew up as a Jehovah Witness, from infancy. I never had a birthday party, christmas gift or any celebration for myself growing up. My mother had 8 children and I was the youngest girl. I was physically abused growing up and later in life, I could identify my mother as being narcissistic. Unfortunately he was abusive and I stayed with him for 15 years. Now I realize that I am a 43 year old woman who have been yelled at and abused all of her life. They love me unconditionally and they literally keep me going. Yet the key is I still am alive. I am now separated from my abusive partner and I do not wish to associate with people who think lowly of me and hurt me in any way. I realize that as long as I am still alive, I can change my fate and there still is hope for a better ending. It is lonely at times and I get weird looks when people hear how many kids I have. We struggle because I have no support from family and no friends to call on. I almost lost my mind several times dealing with my abusive partner. He would cause fights and abandon me in my time of need like right after I have a baby or just get out the hospital or just moved in a new place. He would be verbally abusive and it would remind me of my mother and how she was with me, almost as if I married her again. Yet here I am , free from abuse and alone with my 7 blessings. This too is a blessing even though it hurt. I am learning to be in the now and take the present as the present it is. God bless us all and please all of us stay positive. Hi every one I ran into this post by accident and I want to say that it has made my day. At least I was able to put a smile on my face after reading the post and reply of others. My life was not a bed of roses. I have live a lonely life to the extend that I start fighting with my self. I got married when I was 14. I was living happily with my husband he was my hope and my life until one day he change he became abusive domestic violence became my everyday exercise ,he start sleeping with my house help. Because I put all my love and trust in him I was devastated,my world turn around I started experiencing pain… loneliness… he abandoned me and the kids for 6months and live with his lover. And I keep asking my self where did I go wrong. I still take good care of my body and maintain my shape even after 5 kids. I found this blog and reading all these comments from others who are suffering or have suffered the same as I am has made me feel more normal. We pretended like we were still together for a couple months and have been treating each other like a couple off and on for the last few months. I tried as hard as I could manage to be everything he wanted me to be. It was just never enough. After we broke up, he admitted to cheating on me once a week for the last month we dated with a married woman. She was the only other friend I had at work, the only other person I trusted and they both let me down. He would say he needed time to himself so I would go stay with my parents but he was really going to her place. I slept on my parents couch while he cheated on me. She ended up finding another job and leaving before I ever find out what was going on. They continued sleeping together for months after our break up, it only stopped when she left apparently. I did an excellent job of pushing everyone who tried to get close to me away to please my ex. Now, I just feel alone. His sweet moments he was everything I ever wanted out of a life partner, and I have always been extremely forgiving of others faults. The problem is, he was never forgiving of mine. All the yelling and name calling just leaves me beaten down and now I feel extremely broken. I have trouble getting out of bed some days and even more trouble leaving my apartment. Hi Rachel Your ex boyfriend suffers from a personality disorder. Please google narcissist or go on YouTube and search for the same. There is a veey good website…narcissitsupport. You are fine and lovable. He is the one with the problem. Please read and inform yourself on how you have been a victim. You will meet someone else and fall in love again. Take care of yourself. I am so very alone. No kids, never been married, no partner, no family besides my mother whom I had to move back in with because I do not make enough money at a crap general labor job, and my mother and I do not get along very well. Over 1000 applications sent out, about 40 interviews, paid to have a resume expert do mine, and I always do well in interviews. The catch is I have no experience, just education, so no one will hire me. Everyone tells me to do volunteer work to get the experience. To heck with that! I need money to survive. I have spinal stenosis and am in constant pain and the work I do only makes it hurt worse and I need to get out of cleaning offices before I physically cannot do it anymore and end up with no job. And after almost 5 years, no one will give me a chance in a different line of work even though I am smart and educated. I have no female friends because they all seem to bore the heck out of me, talking about boys and fashion and shopping bleh and my dream was always to be a successful musician, but that never panned out. I have a music studio, but I never write music anymore because I have no inspiration to do so. I have over 40 songs written. I am on 2 dating sites, am constantly looking for a better job, I eat healthy, work out, meditate, and do all I can to make my life better. But it is failure after failure after failure. Loneliness on top of loneliness on top of loneliness. Everything I do amounts to nothing. I have lost so many people in my life, my heart is broken in so many pieces spread across this world. I have lost so many people I have loved I lost count. I cannot catch a break. I keep trying and trying and trying for YEARS and still, nothing. I have no hope. I just want to be married, have a child, and a decent job. I want for so little. And this was my rant. There is no happy ending here. I do what I can to survive, but I am not happy. Who would be if your whole life was one failure after another….. I have barely left the house in 6 years. Dear Marc, I have been feeling lonely, sad and alone for some time now and today was the worst that I searched the internet about loneliness. Among the results I found, I was drawn to check your website first. You have mentioned so many points that have been true in my life. I also have been regretting my past — i. After reading the comments, I realized that I was not alone. Your article has been an inspiration. I have next to no family. My father left when I was one and I never knew any of his family. My mom is basically all I got. My mother is 76. They are back in Indiana where I grew up. She and I were together for 22 years. We have three boys — 15 and twin 10 year olds. I guess the grass was greener somewhere else, because she moved out with her lover and they are now married. She took m boys and I get to pay her for it. I miss my boys. I go to work. I feel oddly different to even my own boys. You and I completely collide on your last point. I say that to quell the emotions and feelings when they surface. John, I am heart-broken by your pain. It takes a real man to be a father, and to have your fatherhood and what you thought was a sound marriage stripped from you, is sad to say the least. It does matter, every bit of it. It matters because this pain makes you whom you are and helps you to determine the man you want to be and never want to be. Only when we are at our lowest points can we truly rise to be the best versions of ourselves. Or… we can choose to withdraw and be the worst versions of ourselves. I am very sorry for your loss and your situation. I only hope that you can find some solace in the small silver linings, such as distance making the heart grow fonder. But when I did that job — and the project ended — they pushed me to another Dept doing half of what I was put there for. So do I have to rot here and watch others thrive? That kills me every day. I just have to keep applying for other jobs and keep keeping on with this one. I feel so sad and betrayed. It has made me smile to feel not alone reading these posts. I have felt deep loneliness…where does everyone go when they go…i havent kept up with so many people…some i miss some im glad they gone. I am approaching 40 no partner.. I feel disolusiined with this life.. I just earned my graduate degree and am looking for a job no luck yet and my finances are starting to get low. My parents had me at a young age and my mother suffered from depression after I was born. My father left to the army when I was 7 and can back when I was 10 but had severe ptsd and committed suited shortly after he came back. I wish there was a way for me to be truly happy again. I know I have my friends that support me but there is no way that they can understand how I truly feel under my smiles and jokes.

If you want to have someone to chat with you are more than welcome to skype or email me anytime. Envision him wandering past closed down storefronts, foreclosed homes, and abandoned buildings. However, having been burned in the past, he elements torn between hope and his fear of being a fool once more. So i help a woman out with her 3 horses, one in particularly I am trying to gain her trust and her mine. Rahul never give up. You just have to stand up for you and for your jesus, there are people who will stay and and who will not in our lives. There is no happy ending here. In every situation, YOU choose your attitude. If anyone out there could pray I find my way maybe our God will hear you. Lastly, solo yourself and have courage and patience.